Wouldn’t it be nice if life was an easy journey, if things just magically appeared all of the time and you felt great no matter what? Wouldn’t it be nice to wake up each morning and feel joyful and at ease?
Well for some this is possible, and my coaching does help foster some habits that allow for this, but the reality is, life brings many challenges, upsets, and painful experiences. Even if we feel good most of the time, there will always be something to disappoint us, break our hearts and struggle through. This is life.
As much as it would be amazing to feel great all of the time and lead a life of ease, the pain that we experience can be just as beautiful, as long as we allow it and are loving the pain. Yes—I said pain can be beautiful.
Painful emotions such as anger, resentment, and hurt can be one of your biggest allies, despite the discomfort. The most loving thing you can do is allow them, to sit with the emotion and allow it to be expressed, because within that emotion is a message that is calling you into a more expanded way of being. It is trying to show you areas within you that maybe haven’t been resolved, or maybe that pressure and resistance you feel is signaling a necessary change of direction in life, propelling you to show up in a bigger way and to step out of your comfort zone so that you can start living your potential.
I understand that it isn’t easy to face the pain, the hurts and disappointments. Instead we turn away from it, go to alcohol, drugs, over-eating, and other indulgent behaviors in hopes that the pain will just disappear and life will just go back to feeling good again.
The truth of it is that these behaviors are only masking the pain in attempt to escape from it. These painful emotions are just waves of energy that come up within us so that they can be released. We are afraid to experience them, to allow these emotions to flow and be released in a healthy way because quite frankly, it doesn’t feel good.
However when you resist feeling the pain, not only do you damage your health because that dense energy is being stored within you causing all sorts of dis-eases, you also miss the beauty, the opportunity to really see what is true for you and what you are being called to experience next. In essence, these emotions feel painful because of what our minds make them mean, the associations we have with them, but in reality, they are just dense energy that want to be released.
Love the pain—be grateful for the messages it is sending you and allow it to flow out of you, without deflecting it upon another person or engaging in indulgent behaviors. The pain will subside and relatively quickly so long as you give it that space to be released rather than shoving it down and turning away from it. Cry if you need to, it’s okay.
Next time you feel any uncomfortable emotion, see what’s coming up for you, the reasons why you are hurting. What are the thoughts that trigger it, how can you let it go and how can you move forward in a positive way?
We’re all humans, we have emotions, our feelings do get hurt. That’s normal, it’s understandable and it’s just life’s way of pushing you into more expanded ways of being. The more you bless the pain, love it and send gratitude towards it, the less pain you’ll feel and you’ll show up as a more brilliant version of yourself.