Life is guaranteed to have its share of ups and downs. One moment everything is going well, you’re flying high, then something takes you by surprise and now you’re confused, wondering how to move forward. We have all been there.
In our day-to-day lives, we are all caught up with so much noise, distractions, and work. Peace and calm seem outside of our reach. Sometimes life takes a sudden turn, unexpected traumas and challenges present themselves and our emotional wellbeing is tested. We resist what is, we hold on to the past and how things were, we fear the unknown future, and we feel stuck, unsure of what to do to next.
Setting healthy clear boundaries is one of the most loving things you can do for yourself and your relationships. Personal boundaries communicate what you will and will not tolerate from others, and encourage respect, support and understanding within your relationships. By setting boundaries, you are also respecting yourself and building your own self-esteem because you are taking responsibility for how you feel and showing others that you deserve to be treated well.
Remember when you were a child and how much you loved to play? You had so much joy in being silly, play games with other kids and didn’t have a care in the world. As the years went on and “reality” set in, you become overwhelmed with commitments, work, maybe even have a family and children of your own, that you forgot what it was like to play. I hear so often how people wish they could go back and be a kid again.
We do not perceive things as they are, but as we are. Anaïs Nin expounds on this ancient notion in her novel, Seduction of the Minotaur. Continue reading
Is needing someone a bad thing? I used to think it was. Years ago, before my personal transformation, admitting that I needed someone or something would bring me face-to-face with my fears of appearing “needy” or selfish. To say that I needed love, attention, or affection made me feel rather pathetic and weak. Not something I was willing to do.